In western culture we often look down on those that want to be alone, indeed, we label them as anti-social. Really, we shouldn’t be doing that. What we should be doing is finding time for ourselves, a time to be alone in solitude.
The power of feeling alone is pretty compelling. So get out there (or stay in) and get some of that much needed alone-time.
One ongoing Harvard study indicates that people form more lasting and accurate memories if they believe theyâ€™re experiencing something alone. Another indicates that a certain amount of solitude can make a person more capable of empathy towards others. And while no one would dispute that too much isolation early in life can be unhealthy, a certain amount of solitude has been shown to help teenagers improve their moods and earn good grades in school.
â€œThereâ€™s so much cultural anxiety about isolation in our country that we often fail to appreciate the benefits of solitude,â€ said Eric Klinenberg, a sociologist at New York University whose book â€œAlone in America,â€ in which he argues for a reevaluation of solitude, will be published next year. â€œThere is something very liberating for people about being on their own. Theyâ€™re able to establish some control over the way they spend their time. Theyâ€™re able to decompress at the end of a busy day in a city…and experience a feeling of freedom.â€