It’s now February and those of you that decided to commit to a New Years resolution have probably given up on them, that’s ok. Trying is always the first step. One of the reasons you may have missed your resolution goal is because it was a goal. Instead of focussing on achieving a goal, you should focus on what problem you’re trying to solve and give it a hard think about the best way to go about solving it.
â€œGoals feel good to set, but theyâ€™re just a diversion,â€ he told me. â€œPeople face no consequence if they donâ€™t reach their goal. So they forget it and set another one again and mess that one up, too.â€
No, Kashey wanted to talk about problems. Too often, he said, we use goals to gloss over problems, pulling arbitrary benchmarks out of thin air â€” like losing 10 pounds or reading 30 books in a year â€” without pausing to consider whether hitting those benchmarks will improve our lives.
When we want to do or change something, a more productive framing, he said, is to ask ourselves, â€œWhat problem am I trying to solve?â€